woensdag 18 november 2015

Kiss many frogs




Sometimes you have to kiss many frogs before you get the prince. Once you have gotten what you wanted, the previous is all forgotten. 

Have you ever had the feeling you have gone through a whole lot of obstacles and your goal is still nowhere in sight? 
You have done everything right. You have set your goal and your extreme focus and optimism defines you. YOU are focused, YOU are determined and YOU are in joy about it. However, your reality hasn't caught up with YOU yet. By setting your goal, the kiss-the-frogs-to-get-the-prince-process starts. The optimistic you starts kissing those frogs with your optimistic passion hoping your kiss will turn this frog into a prince immediately. That first step is the hardest one, since you don't know how that frog will taste. After nothing has happened the first time, you might be slightly disappointed but still optimistic. I mean, come on, how hard can it be to kiss those frogs to get that gorgeous prince, right? After those first twenty something frogs, your optimism slightly fades away. After fifty something and a whole lot more, you are done with those funky tasting frogs.

What do I mean when I say once you have gotten what you wanted the previous is all forgotten? It means that if you are in the middle of the process of attracting something into your life, it can feel like a burden. That optimistic YOU can lose sight of the goal quickly if the road towards it feels endless. However when you do reach your goal, all those previous obstacles seem less troublesome then before. A perfect example of this is the story of my brother. It is not a shocking story in any way, but he is one of the reasons I came up with the kiss-many-frogs-process. My dear brother bought a house two years ago. The house had a good price but much work had to be done in order to make it viable to their standards. He started optimistically, but the joy turned into a task when there seemed to be no end to all the work that needed to be done. Two years later, the place is meeting up to their expectations. The frog had finally turned into a prince! Over diner, my brother enthusiastically talked about his prince and it seemed that he had forgotten what a burden it had felt at times.

I was actually amazed. I had witnessed his exhaustion and despair many times and I didn't expect him to ever be happy again about it. Maybe it is the way the brain works. The struggles are filtered into the background once the hard times have passed, giving you the chance to fully enjoy the outcome. That is however my own hypothesis, but I would like to encourage you to not give up on anything you desire, whether it is a new house, a new job, finding love or new friends. Kissing the prince wouldn't taste so sweet if you hadn't kissed those funky tasting frogs before him.

Be happy, 

~Ilona~


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